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Ryan Emmet Deffet

December 11, 1992 — September 25, 2023

DEFFET, Ryan Emmet, age 30, of Chicago, IL, formerly Oakwood, OH, departed this life on Monday, September 25, 2023 due to an unexpected injury. Ryan was born on December 11, 1992 in Dayton, OH. He graduated from Oakwood High School and earned a BA in Audio Art and Acoustics from Columbia College of Art and Design, Chicago. He was a talented and generous musician and led several bands, notably Space Gators and Faux Furrs (composer, lyricist, singer, guitarist, bassist, drummer, harmonicist, mixed and mastered, and much more). He championed a wide variety of music, bands, and artists. He was also Communications Manager at Wolcott Preparatory, and valued colleagues, talented and loving students, and their families. He loved the natural world and all it had to offer from the water to the sky, enjoying kayaking, rowing, and camping. He also loved reading, movies, Legos and video games.

He is survived by his parents, Tamera Schneider and Michael Deffet; brother, Kenneth Deffet; fiancé, Alyssa Coyle; her parents, Julie and Theodore Coyle, and sister, Abigail Coyle. They all grieve but cherish memories of Ryan's smiles, hugs, music, humor and generosity. He leaves behind beloved aunts, uncles, cousins, and countless friends in Chicago, Dayton, and beyond to treasure his memory. Ryan's essence was kindness. He was empathetic, joyful, and genuinely interested in everyone he met. Ryan was open to and accepting of others - a giver of limitless love. His selfless generosity led to hope and peace for many organ and tissue recipients.

Family will greet friends 5:00-8:00PM on Friday, October 6 at ROUTSONG FUNERAL HOME, 2100 E STROOP RD, KETTERING, OH. Funeral services will be held 11:00AM on Saturday, October 7 at the funeral home. He will be laid to rest at St. Kateri Preserve inside Calvary Cemetery. In lieu of flowers please visit Routsong's website for donating to a pending Art Foundation in Ryan's name. Fond memories and expressions of sympathy may be made at

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Friday, October 6, 2023

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Saturday, October 7, 2023

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